Michael Adams
- Jan 21, 2021
- 9 min read

How to start your life over – Does this only apply to addicts?

Updated: Jan 21, 2021

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Today we will be discussing How to start your life over – Does this only apply to addicts?

I am Mr. Michael Adams

I am a depression and PTSD survivor

Former Addict of narcotics and alcohol

Borderline Atheist

Found God through a spiritual awakening

Now Entrepreneur

Here to serve humanity

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Starting your life over. You ever think about it before? Are you thinking, does this only apply to addicts who are in recovery, trying to recover their life back?

No.

Not necessarily. This can be applied to way more groups of people, and not just addicts. This can also be applied to people going through a spiritual awakening while realizing they have been programmed wrong along their journey as well. But we will be strictly speaking to addicts on this topic.

(Take what works and throw out the rest)

Addicts

You have come to realize you have made some serious mistakes in your life. That is wonderful to hear and see. Welcome to the first day of your new life.

Will this be easy?

No! Not even close!

Will it be worth it?

Yes. Yes, it will be. But you need to trust the process of it all. There will be a lot of ups and downs, highs and lows. Especially at the beginning, you will experience A Lot of Pain. I will not sugar coat this for you. You deserve the truth and not just some vague blanket statement to be thrown at you.

This is going to really suck at the beginning. There is really no way around this (that I could find).

But hang in there. You can and will do this. You shall overcome. Only on one condition.

YOU CAN NOT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!

Failure is Not an Option!!!

If you are going to fail – Then Fail Forward

NEVER Fail Backwards.

You know this pain you are experiencing right now? Are you at rock bottom? Are you close to it?

Be honest with yourself – you are only cheating yourself and your life with a lie.

(Yes)

Perfect.

Feel this pain. I want you to remember how much this sucks right now. How miserable life is, and how bad your thoughts are at this timeline in your life.

Engrain it into your subconscious mind. Really truly feel this pain. Lean into it.

This pain is going to be your driving force moving forward. Because if you Allow yourself to fail backward again. This is what you got to go back to. So, use this pain to your advantage.

Remember, trust the process.

This is Your Life. This is Your Reality. You only got one shot at it, as this is not a dress rehearsal. This is live. We are all headed to death and back into the soil. Then what happens after that, no one really knows. We all have beliefs and faiths as to what happens when we leave our bodies. But none of us really truly know for sure.

Don’t waste your life. You have a lot of life trapped inside you trying to get out. Live fully. Live clear. Live consciously.

Steps:

Burn your bridges

I’m not sure how to instruct you on how to best go about this. But I will share with you why it is very important to do. Addicts, you know which friends I’m talking about. When I say “friends”, you and I both know we are speaking about your drug dealers. I know, I know…

You don’t understand, but this particular friend is different. He or she really is a good friend of mine who has been through thick and thin with each other.

Ok,

Let me ask you something.

What do you all talk about when you are together? Do you talk about building a future, outside of drugs? How many times does the word jail, prison, drugs, anger, frustration, paranoia, wrongdoings, come up? Analyze your conversations for a bit each time you are together from now on until you realize there is very little upliftment happening in your interactions. Once you realize this, it’s time to make some plans. You need out of this friendship. This friendship is toxic. You may not be able to completely put your finger on it. But you feel and sense it in every fiber of your being, that something is off in this relationship.

Stop allowing phone calls, texts, interactions on social media, etc. (again, you kind of need to figure this out on your own, as there is no set-in-stone way on how to properly do this – but it must be done – do not feel bad about this)

Step 2

Create a new email account

Create all-new social media accounts and friend NO ONE (yet)

Step 3

Go to YouTube and type in “Motivation talks” and “Inspiration talks”

Start writing down people’s names that resonate with you. Starter list to look into:

Tony Robbins

Tim Ferris

Sadhguru

Vishen Lackhihani

MindValley

Dandapani

This should help give you a good well roundness in business, personal development, personal growth, and spirituality. These are all key factors to focus on, while you recover from drugs, and find your new purpose in life. This will be your foundation to start your new reprogram outside your old programmed matrix.

Step 4

Keep Only 5 friends (for now) who are sober

As you are the average of the top 5 people you surround yourself with.

What? You just realized you have no sober friends?

(It happens, no problem)

Seek, even if you need to go to a group of some sort, maybe a new friend from your work, a family member, someone. You will need a support group for at least the next 3 years Strong, as you will be leaning on them for lots of support, especially at the beginning of this journey. Things are going to get confusing to you, and you really need people whom you feel safe with and around to lift you and keep your mind right through all this.

This is going to be hard for everyone. So, you really need to take this seriously and pick your 5 just as seriously. Your life depends on it.

Sit them down and you need to do this in person. No over the phone. No over the internet, No over social media, nothing. This must be done in person. They will see you are serious. You can not pick that up over a screen. This is why it is really important to talk in person – Face to Face / Heart to Heart.

Be vulnerable

Step 5

Family support

I do not know how old you are, or where you are at along your journey. So, I will try to break this down into different categories.

Single

You are going to need At Least one of your family members who will morally support you and your decisions. This means you will need to have a heart to heart conversation with one or many of your family members. Only you can decide which one you feel will support you, and which one’s may be toxic to your recovery process, as every family situation is different, and being aware that many addicts come from broken homes in one way, shape, or form. So, choose wisely.

In a relationship or married

You will not like this response. You need a year to yourself. This is going to be hell on you and your partner. You need time alone to regroup your thoughts, and re-find yourself. This will be painful (I can only imagine) Side note: I was single. So, I never had to be faced with this decision.

Why am I suggesting it then?

Because in my experience of talking with people of all walks of life, from all around the world, there seems to one commonality that people who got sober and stayed sober had in common. That being, they had to spend time on their own, to relearn how to live. Just About every person I have spoken to (again this is my experience and my reality only), people who stay in relationships, thinking love will pull them through, usually end up in divorce or breaking up on Very bad terms. Distance grows the heart founder. Just take a break, it will grow your relationship much Much stronger in the long run. You can continue to keep in contact (it is highly suggested), but you really need to keep in contact on the phone. I know things are expensive to live on your own. I don’t know what to tell you, but you need to figure something out. You really need this one-year period time on your own for now.

Contact tips Be vulnerable, tell each other you miss them. Tell them the struggles you are facing. Flirt, flirt, and flirt some more. Do you know that whole “Love will pull us through” thing? This is where it can be applied. But if your partner is an addict as well…

Well…

You need a year to yourself with zero contact then.

If your love is meant to be, it will hold strong through these turbulent times you face over this next year.

(you must trust the process, even at the risk of losing your partner. Life!!!! Remember.)

Step 6

Friend leaders online and Now transfer over your 5 friends to all your new social media accounts.

Your reprogram process has just begun. Strap in, this is going to be a fun ride.

Step 7

How to avoid toxic old “friends”

So much is going to happen to try to get you to fall back. Your “friends” will give you some sob story. They will try to persuade you that what you are doing will not work. They will try to put you down. Basically, there is a whole list of emotions that will be played through on both sides from your friends, and the thoughts that go on inside your head. Do not waver. Hold strong through this process.

Never answer your door, unless you know Exactly who is Already coming over. Learn to get comfortable ignoring people in your life. You know who I mean when I say this. No phone calls. In fact, turn your phone notifications off, or put it on silent. You do not need any distractions at this point. For at least a year.

Focus!!!

You run into people on the streets, stores, work, etc. You are now always busy. With what are you busy with?

Tell people you are studying business. It’s not a lie. Because of the people I set you up within your new foundation, you will learn online business if you are observant enough (which I know you are). Success leaves clues, and Every one of those people is making a ton of money online, and in their personal life. Pay close attention along your healing process, you may just pick up business strategies along the way (wink, wink).

Step 8:

Your new foundation of leaders you are now following, now take it to the next level and find them in Facebook groups and all their other social media accounts they may be on. (hint they are on many other platforms – but I will have you discover which ones those are on your own)

Now that you have them on your friend's list, and are also following them in their group pages. You got a good foundation to help reprogram not just you, but also your algorithms as well. Your reality is already starting to morph. Do you recognize it yet in your newsfeed in each of your social media accounts, YouTube, and also what your internet browser is showing you yet? If not, pay attention, you Will start to notice it more and more over time.

Step 9:

Daily Quote Posts

Pick a social media account you are most comfortable using already. You are about to begin your new program in your new vocabulary. Because a HUGE factor of changing your reality is by changing your vocabulary first.

Change your vocabulary

Change your reality

How do I find quotes? I have never even thought about looking up quotes before. I don’t read that much.

It’s ok. I will teach you.

Depending on how you best learn is how you will find them.

You more of a visual learner? Go to Pinterest

Video?

Go to YouTube

Reading? Go to Google

Type in the keyword “inspiration quotes” or “motivation quotes”

Find ANYTHING that resonates with you. Then write it down and post it.

How many times do I post per day? I’m so happy you asked me that.

No more than 3 posts a day.

Each post must be spaced out 4 hours apart or more.

No posting 20 times a day. Or every clever idea you think you may have. Or posting links (that is spamming your own page).

Type

Type in a quote. Try to avoid pictures with the quote already in them. You need to learn how to step into your own leadership. This is a great way to practice building confidence in yourself.

Pictures.

Post pictures of yourself with a quote you write out for your post.

Get comfortable being uncomfortable.

Document your journey.

It will be embarrassing at first, but this is why you have your solid 5 friends who will support you and encourage you along with this.

No one will make fun of you. That is all in your head.

Besides… Worst case scenario…

Someone does make fun of you.

Block them!!!!

You are starting over anyway, and if you got this far in your process this should not be That hard. Just rip it off like a band-aid.

Bye-bye.

Move forward at all costs, and keep your support group of your top 5 close to you through this all.